Any time we tell a story about ourselves, it is a story of how we are a hero (in order that we might build ourselves up) or a victim (so that we might garner sympathy and create deeper bonds in our relationships). We do not tell stories in which we are the villain because villains… Continue reading In the Wake of Tragedy
I’m Not the Only Goose in Town
I am not nor have I ever been a very big fan of Aesop. What I mean to say is that too many of our long-held misperceptions of various animals, and by extension our fellow man, are stupid-harmful. So many of his fables would progress and end in ways very different from the originals if… Continue reading I’m Not the Only Goose in Town
What Makes a Life Lucky?
Some people have an unnecessary aversion to luck. I met a woman who works in a gorgeous library, writes adolescent literature in her spare time, and was planning on attending an upcoming conference of the Society of Children’s Books Writers & Illustrators (SCBWI). I said she was lucky and she was immediately up in arms.… Continue reading What Makes a Life Lucky?
Stay-Laces: Issues With Personal Back-Story
Inner critics are noisy buggers that don’t know how to let up, but are crazy-good at learning. Any time anyone says anything critical of you or someone you consider to be similar to yourself, your inner critic is listening in and building up their artillery. The more artillery we let our inner critics hold on… Continue reading Stay-Laces: Issues With Personal Back-Story
When Someone Asks if You’re a Princess, You Say “Yes”
My sister once told me I should go out with a particular guy because he would treat me like a princess. She meant that he would spoil and pamper me and put my wants and needs above his own. I responded to the meaning of her sentiment by saying “I don’t want to be treated like… Continue reading When Someone Asks if You’re a Princess, You Say “Yes”
Focus Too Much on a Particular Result and You Lose Focus on the Bigger Picture
Sometimes we’re so focused on a desired outcome that we try to nudge it a little force it and just end up frustrating ourselves. Sometimes, while respecting the fact that we can’t always get what we want the exact minute that we want it, we forget that spending a good amount of time having reasonable expectations will not… Continue reading Focus Too Much on a Particular Result and You Lose Focus on the Bigger Picture