Any time we tell a story about ourselves, it is a story of how we are a hero (in order that we might build ourselves up) or a victim (so that we might garner sympathy and create deeper bonds in our relationships). We do not tell stories in which we are the villain because villains… Continue reading In the Wake of Tragedy
Category: The Shivers
Stay-Laces: Issues With Personal Back-Story
Inner critics are noisy buggers that don’t know how to let up, but are crazy-good at learning. Any time anyone says anything critical of you or someone you consider to be similar to yourself, your inner critic is listening in and building up their artillery. The more artillery we let our inner critics hold on… Continue reading Stay-Laces: Issues With Personal Back-Story
Mirrors Cannot Lie, So We Twist Their Meaning to Fit Our Fears
As children we are taught to “play fair” because “fair is fair” and when something isn’t fair, whether it’s deliberately cruel or arbitrarily ruled, we learn to see that something as broken. Then, somehow the term “fairest of them all” starts getting tossed this way and that, and we’re just supposed to take it to… Continue reading Mirrors Cannot Lie, So We Twist Their Meaning to Fit Our Fears
Some Heroes Leave Out The Best Part of Their Story
Every day thousands upon thousands of blogposts are written and read, many with the intention of inspiring people to be just a little less afraid, a little more creative, and a lot more … something. Figuring out what that something is can be infuriating as we follow the journeys of these “internet personalities” who share… Continue reading Some Heroes Leave Out The Best Part of Their Story
7 Reasons You Aren’t Living Your Fairy Tale & What To Do About It
So, you want the fairy tale without the lame-isms (outdated social values, usually ending with -ism). Fairy tale living, though, requires action and you have to decide what that action will be. Fun fact about decision-making: The Shivers may not affect every decision you make, but big Fat IMPORTANT decisions are their favorite opportunities.
Creativity is Adaptability is How We Deal With Fear
If you have ever had a daydream, or imagined how a conversation with someone you know might go, you have the power of imagination. If you imagine something, you invite its possibility into your thinking. That’s a window of opportunity for wonder and worry to get in your head, and you get to choose who climbs in the window.