So, you want the fairy tale without the lame-isms (outdated social values, usually ending with -ism). Fairy tale living, though, requires action and you have to decide what that action will be. Fun fact about decision-making: The Shivers may not affect every decision you make, but big Fat IMPORTANT decisions are the last place you want to feel them.
Because that means you didn’t see them coming. As big as a decision may be they favor climbing in the tiny attic window to waltzing through the grand foyer. Still, you can learn to recognize when The Shivers make any appearance.
The Shivers like to trick us. The Shivers like to make us doubt ourselves. The Shivers love the young adult years, when every little thing feels like a life or death situation requiring the strictest – if most illogical – prioritizing.
Reasons Against Doing
- You’re tired.
- You’re not in the mood.
- You have more important things to do.
- You don’t want to be selfish.
- You don’t want to be rejected.
- You don’t want to look stupid.
- You don’t want to fail.
Failure To Launch
The Shivers want you to fail before you begin by not beginning because The Shivers are mostly clueless. The Shivers are the fear portion of your Lizard Brain trying to stop you from crossing the highway while the cars are zipping by. The Shivers don’t know how emotionally important it is for you to do anything, all they know is that it’s their job to signal you when you’re in a life-threatening situation.
What The Shivers really don’t understand is that not every uncomfortable or new situation is life-threatening. You don’t need to stop dead in your tracks – for example -every time a phone rings. Answering the phone is not going to kill you (unless you’re in an action movie and there’s a bomb or some crap, but you get my point).
The Shivers cannot be purely thought away. Reason will only go so far in assuring them your life is not in danger. The only way to prove to The Shivers that your life is not in danger, is to go ahead and do the thing you’re “afraid” to do.
Learning By Doing
- Doing something that gets you closer to living your dream – and knowing that’s what you’re doing – can signal your brain to get excited and be awake for the thing you’re doing.
- Getting closer to living your dream – and recognizing that – can signal your brain that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and give you hope, a brighter outlook.
- Choosing to believe there is nothing more important than the work of fairy tale living and the chance at happiness it can provide is the first step to living happily ever out there.
- If you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be much good to anybody and you just set yourself up to be blind to the golden opportunities that come your way.
- Yes, rejection sucks; but, not putting yourself out there means never being accepted.
- Looking stupid isn’t always a bad thing, frivolity is the very serious work of being completely devoid of all seriousness.
- In failing to launch we learn that doing nothing produces no results (except maybe Bartleby the scrivener semi-willing himself to die); but, in failing to get something right, we get valuable information for the next attempt and the next attempt until we succeed in our quest.
Define Your Success
Maybe you want to finally start that book or painting or some other creative project you keep putting off. Maybe you’ve gotten off to a great start, but now things are starting to slow down and you just don’t know whether it’s even worth it to keep trying. Maybe the end is in sight, but you just can’t seem to make the final push to get there.
Look over that list of “Reasons Against Doing” and, being honest with yourself, figure out what’s stopping you. Check it against “Learning By Doing.” Success – however you define it – means being able to get out of your own way to do the things you want to be doing.
I know it’s hard getting out of your own way, but it’s a lot harder being down in the muck. That’s why there are so many stories out there with people using The Seven-League Boots. Instead of having to do battle against their own physical limitations as human beings, they get to rise above it all and speed along to the finish line.
Eye On The Prize
Come on, did you really think I was going to go a whole blogpost without talking anything fairy tale? Anyway, now that I’ve mentioned The Seven-League Boots I gotta tell you: these boots are made for speeding along, not cheating along. Yes, there’s a difference.
The difference is your personal well-being. Everything takes longer when you’re upset, lasts longer when you hate it. When we’re happy and doing something we enjoy, the time flies.
A big success for me via this blog will be to turn this post you’re reading now into your very own pair of Seven-League Boots. The only way to do that will be to wear them myself, first. I can’t very well ask you to stride past those Seven Leagues I listed, if I’m unable to do it myself.